Question 1

Where are you based?

Accepted Answer

I’m based in Hertfordshire and work entirely online via Zoom.
I offer online counselling and clinical supervision to clients across the UK.

Question 2

Who do you work with?

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I specialise in working with women aged 18+.

Many of the women I work with come to counselling feeling anxious, overwhelmed, self-critical, or emotionally stretched, often without a clear reason why. I also support women around life transitions such as fertility, pregnancy, miscarriage, menopause, parenting, loss, and relationship difficulties.

I also offer online couples counselling, and clinical supervision to trainee and qualified counsellors working with adults.

Question 3

When do you see clients?

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I usually offer weekly online counselling sessions on Mondays and Wednesdays between 8.30am and 3pm, and on Fridays between 8.30am and 12pm.

I have some additional flexibility for supervision and couples work on weekday afternoons.

The best way to check my current availability is to get in touch or book a free introductory chat.

Question 4

What do you charge?

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Sessions are 50 minutes and cost:£70 for counselling and psychotherapy£80 for couples therapyWhen I work with couples, I also offer 90-minute sessions for £140, which can be helpful if you feel you would benefit from having a little more time, particularly at the start of the work.Clinical supervision fees are:£70 per hour£50 for 45 minutes£95 for 1.5 hoursPayment details are discussed once we decide to work together.

Question 5

Do I need to commit to a set number of sessions?

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No.

Both counselling and supervision with me are open-ended. Some people come for a shorter period to focus on something specific, while others stay longer. We’ll regularly check in about how the work feels and what you’re wanting from it.

Question 6

What if I don’t have a clear reason for coming to counselling?

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You don’t need a diagnosis, a crisis, or a clear explanation.
Many people come to counselling with a general sense that something isn’t quite right, or that the way they’re coping no longer feels sustainable.  We can start from wherever you are.

Question 7

What’s the difference between counselling and supervision?

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Counselling focuses on your emotional wellbeing, relationships, and inner experience.

Clinical supervision is a reflective space for counsellors and psychotherapists to think about their client work, professional development, and the emotional and ethical complexities of the role.

Question 8

You’re an integrative, attachment-based counsellor and psychotherapist – what does that mean?

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Being an integrative counsellor and psychotherapist means I draw on different therapeutic approaches, guided by what feels most helpful for you and what we are noticing together in the work.Counselling and psychotherapy sit within the same profession, but psychotherapy often involves working at greater depth over time. Both focus on helping you explore your thoughts, feelings and patterns in a safe, supportive space.My work is attachment-based, which means I’m interested in how your emotional patterns and ways of relating developed, often early in life, and how they continue to shape how you feel, cope and connect with others today.Rather than asking ‘what’s wrong with you?’, I’m more interested in understanding what’s happened in your life to make you the person that you are, and how you learned to cope.

Question 9

Do you only work with women?

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I specialise in working with women, but I work with all adults aged 18+.

Question 10

What are sessions like?

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Sessions are a space where you don’t need to have everything worked out in advance.

There’s room to think out loud, to be unsure or uncertain, and to explore what’s happening beneath the surface. I’m an active, engaged therapist and will offer reflections, questions, and gentle challenge where it feels helpful.

Question 11

Does online therapy really work?

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Yes. Research shows that online counselling can be just as effective as in-person therapy.
Many people find that working online feels more accessible and easier to fit around everyday life, while still allowing for depth, connection, and meaningful change.

Question 12

What about confidentiality?

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Confidentiality is a core part of my work.

What you share with me remains confidential, with the usual ethical and legal exceptions, such as serious risk of harm to yourself or others. I work in line with BACP ethical guidelines, and confidentiality is discussed fully in our first session.

For more information, you can view my full Privacy Notice linked in the footer of this website.

Question 13

What if I'm looking for urgent mental health support?

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I don’t offer crisis or emergency support.

If you’re in immediate danger, please contact emergency services. You can also contact Samaritans on 116 123 or SHOUT by texting 85258 for confidential support.

Question 14

How do I know if you're the right counsellor for me?

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The relationship matters.

That’s why I offer a free, no-obligation 30-minute chat. It’s a chance to share a little about what’s been going on, ask any questions, and get a sense of how I work and how it feels to talk together.

There’s no pressure to continue. After the conversation, the next step is entirely up to you.

Many clients tell me they knew it felt right because they felt listened to, unhurried, and understood.

Question 15

How do I know if you’re the right supervisor for me?

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The supervisory relationship matters just as much as the therapeutic one.

I offer a free, no-obligation 30-minute conversation so we can think together about your work, your training or professional context, and what you’re looking for from supervision.

It’s an opportunity to explore whether my attachment-based approach, pace, and way of thinking feel like a good fit for you. There’s no obligation to continue, and no expectation either way.

Good supervision should feel containing, thoughtful, and supportive of both your clients and you.

Question 16

Why do I feel anxious even when my life looks fine on the outside?

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Many of the women I work with are capable, responsible and high-functioning. On the outside, things may look “fine”. Inside, they feel constantly on edge, self-critical or overwhelmed.

From an attachment-based perspective, anxiety often develops as a coping strategy rather than a sign that something is wrong with you.

It can come from early experiences where you learned to stay alert, responsible or emotionally attuned to others in order to feel safe.

Therapy isn’t about getting rid of anxiety overnight. It’s about understanding why it developed, and helping your nervous system feel safer so you no longer have to stay on high alert all the time.

Question 17

Why does my mind never switch off, especially at night?

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Night-time is often when anxiety feels loudest. There are fewer distractions, less external structure, and more space for thoughts to spiral.

For many women, a busy mind is linked to a long history of holding everything together. When you finally stop, your nervous system doesn’t automatically know how to rest.

In therapy, we look at what your mind is trying to protect you from, rather than forcing it to “calm down”. Over time, this helps your body learn that it is safe enough to slow down.

Question 18

I keep overthinking conversations and worrying what people think of me. Why?

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Overthinking is often a sign of someone who cares deeply about relationships.

If you learned early on that connection felt uncertain, critical or unpredictable, you may have developed a habit of scanning for signs you’ve said or done something wrong. This isn’t a flaw. It’s an adaptation.

Attachment-based therapy helps you understand where this pattern came from and gently loosen its grip, so relationships can start to feel safer and less exhausting.

Question 19

Why do I feel responsible for everyone else’s feelings?

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Many of the women I work with grew up being emotionally aware, helpful or “easy”. They learned to manage other people’s feelings in order to keep things calm.

Over time, this can turn into a deep sense of responsibility for everyone else, alongside guilt for having needs of your own.

In therapy, we explore how this pattern developed and help you build boundaries that feel kind rather than harsh, so you can stay connected without losing yourself.

Question 20

Why do I feel lonely even when I’m surrounded by people?

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Loneliness isn’t always about being alone. It’s often about not feeling emotionally seen or held.

You can have friendships, a partner, a family, and still feel deeply alone if you’re always the one listening, supporting or coping. Many women feel unseen precisely because they appear so capable.

Therapy can help you explore what emotional connection actually feels like for you, and what might help you experience more of it in your life.

Question 21

I keep telling myself I “should be coping better”. Why am I so hard on myself?

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That “should” voice is often an internalised critic that developed early on. It may have helped you stay motivated, responsible or acceptable in the past, but over time it becomes exhausting.

Rather than trying to silence self-criticism, I help people understand where it came from - and what it’s trying to protect. This makes it possible to develop a more compassionate inner voice instead.

Question 22

Do I need to talk about my childhood for therapy to help?

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Not in a forced or overwhelming way.

An attachment-based approach recognises that our early experiences shape how we feel and relate, but therapy always moves at your pace. We focus on what feels relevant now, and gently connect it to earlier patterns when it feels helpful and safe to do so.

You won’t be pushed to revisit the past unless it serves your present.

Question 23

How is attachment-based therapy different from CBT or solution-focused therapy?

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CBT often focuses on changing thoughts and behaviours in the here and now, which can be helpful for some people.

Attachment-based therapy is more interested in why certain patterns developed in the first place. Instead of asking “How do I stop feeling this way?”, we explore “What happened that made this feel necessary?”

For many women who have already tried coping strategies, this deeper understanding is what creates lasting change.

Question 24

Why do I want closeness in relationships but also feel the urge to pull away?

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Yes. This push-pull dynamic is very common, especially for people with attachment-related anxiety.

You may long for closeness, reassurance and connection, but feel overwhelmed, ashamed or frightened once it’s there. This isn’t inconsistency. It’s a nervous system trying to balance safety and connection at the same time.

Therapy offers a space where these patterns can be understood rather than judged, and where safer ways of relating can gradually develop.

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