We give and receive feedback all day long. There's the formal feedback that we might think of in the workplace or at school. But our day is filled with micro-moments of feedback. Comments, questions, the way that someone looks at us. The assumptions that we make about what someone is thinking - even if they haven't said anything at all. And something that I often notice, is that different 'parts' of us can become activated when we receive feedback. Let me explain. When

Anxiety is at the heart of what brings to so many of us to therapy. Sometimes it's loud and in the forefront of our minds. And sometimes it's something that just sits quietly in the background. A mind that doesn’t switch off. A constant undercurrent of worry. Lying awake at night. Obsessively checking our messages. Struggling to say no. I'm delighted to share that I'll be speaking to Josh Fletcher all about this in an upcoming webinar, at 7pm on 6th May 2026. Josh is

I’ve recently been asked to comment for The Mirror on sibling dynamics , particularly in families where one adult child stays closely connected while another steps back. What often surprises people is not the fact that families argue and fall out with each other. But the confusion that can follow. The fact that different siblings who grew up in the same family respond so differently to the same parents, the same events, and the same tensions. And why this difference can s

You might cope well during the day. You get things done. You show up. You hold everything together. And then night comes ... The house goes quiet. The lights go out. And suddenly your mind feels louder than ever. Nighttime anxiety is something I’m asked about a lot, both in my therapy work and more recently in the media. It’s a topic I’ve spoken about with The Times (click here to read the article) , because for many people this is a very real and very lonely experience. It o

Starting therapy is a big decision. Some people arrive with a clear issue they want to talk about. Others feel anxious, overwhelmed or a bit lost, and simply know they want life to feel easier than it does right now. And there are a huge number of therapists out there, practising different types of therapy. I'm an attachment-based therapist, and I love what I do. I'm often asked what it actually means to be 'attachment-based', so I thought I'd put together an overview. You c

I am excited to share that I've created a free guide, all about attachment theory. This is an area of specialism for me - I'm an attachment-based specialist, and a course tutor on an attachment course for therapists. This free guide is designed to help you make sense of your patterns in relationships and friendships Most of us go through life without ever being taught why we feel, think and relate in the ways that we do. We tell ourselves that we are being too sensitive, to

In those early days of a relationship, it can feel as though the rest of the world fades away and the spotlight shines firmly on the new person in our life. It’s an exciting time — full of closeness and new experiences. So it’s little wonder that our routines change in ways we barely notice, especially when it comes to how we eat and look after ourselves. I recently spoke to the BBC Good Food team about this very topic. We explored why falling in love can lead us towards mor

When we are in a relationship, we often thinking ahead to the future. Imagining ourselves as a couple, living our lives together. But when happens when a relationship has run its course? I spoke to The i Paper for an article all about the red flags that we might ignore - and why . The tricky thing about red flags is that they are not always obvious. Sometimes it's just the small, subtle things that make a difference. There's a twinge of a gut feeling that tells us somet

Last night I was invited onto ITV News to talk about relationships. The focus was on the rise in AI companions. These are chatbots created by tech companies, designed to offer friendship, companionship, and relationships to people who might be feeling lonely, isolated, or simply in need of something different in terms of interaction. It's a topic that I find frightening and fascinating in equal measure.

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Anxiety shows up differently for everyone. In this post, we explore what anxiety really is, how it might be affecting you, and how you can begin to understand and manage