My social media feed is usually full of therapists, golden retrievers, musical theatre, recipes and stand-up comedy. But recently I've noticed something else creeping in. People showing me which wind-up radios I might need, how much water I ought to be storing, and what I need to have ready in case of an emergency. So it was interesting to speak to Katie Rosseinsky for her article in The Independent about the rise of 'prepping', and why something that's supposed to help us fe

I don't usually write blog posts about myself. I'm much more comfortable writing about anxiety, relationships and the things that make us tick. But I'm making an exception for this one. I'm delighted (and still slightly bewildered) to have won the BACP Bright Future Award 2026 at the BACP Member Awards. The award recognises early career practitioners who show promise in their work and potential to contribute to the counselling and psychotherapy profession. It's a real honour

I spend a lot of time talking to people about relationships. About communication, how we ask for what we need, what happens when we misunderstand each other, and how we repair the inevitable ruptures that happen between us. These things matter enormously. Relationships can be difficult. We can hurt each other, become defensive, struggle to communicate or find ourselves repeating the same patterns over and over again. And this doesn’t just apply to our relationships with our p

We all know the phrase, 'you can choose your friends, but you can't choose your family'. Some of us are fortunate enough to have balanced, caring relationships with our relatives. But for others of us, our families are the scene - or cause - of a whole host of difficult and complex feelings. We often see this play out in fictional families on screen, or in the lives of celebrities. Family estrangement is something I’ve spoken about a number of times over the past few year

I was recently asked by Saga Magazine to share some thoughts on why losing a pet can feel so devastating, and what might help when you're coping with that loss. This is something that many pet owners know instinctively, but can sometimes find difficult to put into words. You can read the full article here: Why losting a pet hurts to much: and how to cope Looking from the outside in, it can be hard to describe the connection that we feel with our pets. They may be an entirel

As a Brit, the word 'sorry' features heavily in our vocabulary. It's common for us to apologise all the time - even when something isn't our fault. And in everyday encounters, that doesn't feel like such a big deal. In fact, it often simply feels like a sign of politeness. I was recently asked to dig a little deeper on this topic for this article in Stylist Magazine, all about why we - women in particular - apologise so much. What these apologies might tell us about how

I'm often asked about 'relationship red flags' or 'warning signs'. Those clear signs that a relationship is in trouble. Things like regular arguments, repeated betrayals, or a total lack of connection. But recently I was asked to talk about something different. The subtler signs that things aren't quite right. And it made me realise that these aren't always so obvious. Sometimes we can't quite put a finger on what isn't right, but our spidey senses are alert to the fact

I was recently quoted in Marie Claire in an article exploring our growing obsession with optimisation. The discussion centred on a trend that many of us will recognise. The idea that we should always be improving ourselves in some way. Becoming more productive, more effective, more successful, fitter, healthier, wealthier, wiser. Better colleagues, parents, partners, children and friends. The idea here is that we all 'should' be on a journey of continual optimisation, impro

Many of us learn about attachment theory during our core training. We learn about attachment styles, and we can often describe attachment concepts well enough to write an essay, discuss it in supervision, or explain it to a client. But something that I've noticed - having undertaken further training in attachment - is that many therapists still find themselves wondering how to actually recognise attachment in the room. How to think about safety, security, co-regulation, and

I think many people imagine that training to become a therapist is mostly about reading books, learning theories, and writing essays. And of course, that is part of it. But it is only part of the picture. Training to be a therapist is also deeply personal. In many ways, it is unlike most other professional training because it asks you to turn inwards, as well as towards the work itself. It involves years of reflection, self-awareness, challenge, and ongoing learning. And it'

I’m delighted to be hosting an online conversation with psychotherapist, ecopsychotherapist and author Alix Hearn to celebrate the release of her new book, Places of Safety: How Attachment Shapes Our Parenting. The event takes place online on 8th June at 7pm, and will be a discussion about attachment, parenting, emotional wellbeing, and the wider systems that shape the way we relate to ourselves and to each other. What drew me to Alix’s work is the way that she writes about a

'You can’t pour from an empty cup'. It’s one of those phrases many of us know well. A reminder that we need to look after ourselves too. That we need to put on our own oxygen mask before we can care for everyone else around us. And that is absolutely true. But sometimes I think that phrases like this can miss a really important point. Most of us know what we need. How we might spend a day if we could really rest and recover and restore ourselves. The part that's often

We give and receive feedback all day long. There's the formal feedback that we might think of in the workplace or at school. But our day is filled with micro-moments of feedback. Comments, questions, the way that someone looks at us. The assumptions that we make about what someone is thinking - even if they haven't said anything at all. And something that I often notice, is that different 'parts' of us can become activated when we receive feedback. Let me explain. When

Anxiety is at the heart of what brings to so many of us to therapy. Sometimes it's loud and in the forefront of our minds. And sometimes it's something that just sits quietly in the background. A mind that doesn’t switch off. A constant undercurrent of worry. Lying awake at night. Obsessively checking our messages. Struggling to say no. I'm delighted to share that I'll be speaking to Josh Fletcher all about this in an upcoming webinar, at 7pm on 6th May 2026. Josh is

I’ve recently been asked to comment for The Mirror on sibling dynamics , particularly in families where one adult child stays closely connected while another steps back. What often surprises people is not the fact that families argue and fall out with each other. But the confusion that can follow. The fact that different siblings who grew up in the same family respond so differently to the same parents, the same events, and the same tensions. And why this difference can s

You might cope well during the day. You get things done. You show up. You hold everything together. And then night comes ... The house goes quiet. The lights go out. And suddenly your mind feels louder than ever. Nighttime anxiety is something I’m asked about a lot, both in my therapy work and more recently in the media. It’s a topic I’ve spoken about with The Times (click here to read the article) , because for many people this is a very real and very lonely experience. It o

Starting therapy is a big decision. Some people arrive with a clear issue they want to talk about. Others feel anxious, overwhelmed or a bit lost, and simply know they want life to feel easier than it does right now. And there are a huge number of therapists out there, practising different types of therapy. I'm an attachment-based therapist, and I love what I do. I'm often asked what it actually means to be 'attachment-based', so I thought I'd put together an overview. You c

I am excited to share that I've created a free guide, all about attachment theory. This is an area of specialism for me - I'm an attachment-based specialist, and a course tutor on an attachment course for therapists. This free guide is designed to help you make sense of your patterns in relationships and friendships Most of us go through life without ever being taught why we feel, think and relate in the ways that we do. We tell ourselves that we are being too sensitive, to

In those early days of a relationship, it can feel as though the rest of the world fades away and the spotlight shines firmly on the new person in our life. It’s an exciting time — full of closeness and new experiences. So it’s little wonder that our routines change in ways we barely notice, especially when it comes to how we eat and look after ourselves. I recently spoke to the BBC Good Food team about this very topic. We explored why falling in love can lead us towards mor

When we are in a relationship, we often thinking ahead to the future. Imagining ourselves as a couple, living our lives together. But when happens when a relationship has run its course? I spoke to The i Paper for an article all about the red flags that we might ignore - and why . The tricky thing about red flags is that they are not always obvious. Sometimes it's just the small, subtle things that make a difference. There's a twinge of a gut feeling that tells us somet