Couples therapy for communication struggles, feeling stuck, and finding a way forward
Couples therapy offers a space that can be hard to find elsewhere.
A place where you can slow things down together.
Where both of you have room to speak, and to be heard.
Many couples come to therapy because something isn’t working as it used to.
You might find it hard to talk without it turning into an argument.
Or feel like you’re not quite reaching each other, even when you’re trying.
Sometimes there’s something specific that’s happened.
Other times, it’s a gradual shift that’s built up over time.
You might be trying to work out what to do next, or whether things can feel different.
Couples therapy creates space to begin understanding what’s happening between you.
My work is attachment-based, which means we pay attention to patterns in how you relate, especially when things feel under strain.
Not to place blame, but to make sense of what’s happening, and why it’s been hard to shift.
I offer online couples therapy across the UK, working at a pace that allows both of you to pause and reflect.
Why you might be looking for couples therapy
Couples come to counselling for many different reasons. Sometimes there has been a specific issue. Sometimes it’s a gradual drift that’s harder to name.
You might recognise some of this:
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conversations quickly turn into arguments or silence
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one of you feels more invested, responsible, or worried than the other
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intimacy feels strained, distant, or transactional
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resentment has built up quietly over time
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trust has been damaged, or something important has gone unsaid
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you feel more like co-managers than partners
Often, each person arrives with a different experience of the relationship, and a different sense of urgency or hope.
Therapy makes space for that difference, rather than trying to smooth it over. It can help you to:
• understand yourselves and each other more clearly
• notice and begin to shift patterns that feel stuck or painful
• communicate in ways that feel more possible
• reflect together on the future of your relationship
How I work with couples
My work with couples is relational and attachment-informed. This means we pay attention to how each of you learned to relate, protect yourselves, and seek closeness long before this relationship began.
Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, we look at:
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how you respond to each other under stress
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what happens when one of you pulls away or pushes for closeness
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how patterns repeat, even when neither of you wants them to
These patterns are not failures. They usually developed for good reasons. But over time, they can leave both partners feeling unseen, unheard, or stuck in roles they no longer want.
In therapy, we slow things down enough to notice what’s happening between you, in real time, and to understand the emotional logic behind it.
In addition to working with couples, I also explore the topic of relationships in the media. Some recent commentary includes:
BBC: on spotting the signs of a relationship breakdown
Yahoo: on relationship red flags
Metro: on solving problems in our relationships
Daily Mail: on resolutions for couples
What sessions are like
There is space for both shared conversation and for each of you to be heard. I won’t take sides, but I won’t sit back in silence either. I’m actively engaged and will offer reflections, questions, and observations to support understanding.
Some sessions focus on what’s happening now. Others may explore how past experiences, life transitions, or accumulated pressures are shaping the present relationship.
There’s no expectation that therapy will lead to a particular outcome.
For some couples, counselling helps them reconnect. For others, it helps them make clearer, more considered decisions about the future. The work is about understanding and honesty, rather than forcing resolution.
If you're thinking about starting therapy
If you’d like to explore whether couples counselling feels right for you both, you’re welcome to book a free introductory chat. It’s a chance for us to meet, talk informally about what’s been happening, and for you to get a feel for how I work.
Sessions last 50 minutes and cost £70. I also offer 90-minute sessions for £95, which can be helpful if you feel you would benefit from having a little more time, particularly at the start of the work.
Couples often start by meeting weekly for the first few sessions. After that, we can review together what feels most helpful. Some couples continue weekly for a while, while others move to meeting less frequently depending on what they need.