Counselling for Couples
Couples counselling offers a space to pause and look more closely at what’s happening between you.
Not just the surface arguments or recurring disagreements, but the patterns underneath. The moments where you feel misunderstood, shut down, defensive, or exhausted by the same conversations going nowhere.
Often, couples arrive feeling stuck rather than certain. You might not know whether you want to stay together, separate, or simply understand why things feel the way they do.
Therapy doesn’t require you to decide that in advance.
I offer online couples counselling to adults across the UK.
Why you might be looking for couples therapy
Couples come to counselling for many different reasons. Sometimes there has been a specific issue. Sometimes it’s a gradual drift that’s harder to name.
You might recognise some of this:
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conversations quickly turn into arguments or silence
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one of you feels more invested, responsible, or worried than the other
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intimacy feels strained, distant, or transactional
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resentment has built up quietly over time
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trust has been damaged, or something important has gone unsaid
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you feel more like co-managers than partners
Often, each person arrives with a different experience of the relationship, and a different sense of urgency or hope. Therapy makes space for that difference, rather than trying to smooth it over.
How I work with couples
My work with couples is relational and attachment-informed. This means we pay attention to how each of you learned to relate, protect yourselves, and seek closeness long before this relationship began.
Rather than focusing on who is right or wrong, we look at:
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how you respond to each other under stress
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what happens when one of you pulls away or pushes for closeness
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how patterns repeat, even when neither of you wants them to
These patterns are not failures. They usually developed for good reasons. But over time, they can leave both partners feeling unseen, unheard, or stuck in roles they no longer want.
In therapy, we slow things down enough to notice what’s happening between you, in real time, and to understand the emotional logic behind it.
What sessions are like
There is space for both shared conversation and for each of you to be heard. I won’t take sides, but I won’t sit back in silence either. I’m actively engaged and will offer reflections, questions, and observations to support understanding.
Some sessions focus on what’s happening now. Others may explore how past experiences, life transitions, or accumulated pressures are shaping the present relationship.
There’s no expectation that therapy will lead to a particular outcome.
For some couples, counselling helps them reconnect. For others, it helps them make clearer, more considered decisions about the future. The work is about understanding and honesty, rather than forcing resolution.
Next steps ...
If you’d like to explore whether couples counselling feels right for you both, you’re welcome to book a free introductory chat. It’s a chance for us to meet, talk informally about what’s been happening, and for you to get a feel for how I work.
I’ve completed initial couples counselling training, and I’m now undertaking advanced clinical training to work at greater depth.
Because of this, I am offering an initial block of eight weekly sessions at a reduced rate of £20 per session.
Sessions last 50 minutes and are held weekly via Zoom, and you’ll meet with me together as a couple. After the initial block, we can review what you’ve found helpful and consider the best next steps.
