Understanding your attachment style and why it matters

I am excited to share that I've created a free guide, all about attachment theory. This is an area of specialism for me - I'm an attachment-based specialist, and a course tutor on an attachment course for therapists.

This free guide is designed to help you make sense of your patterns in relationships and friendships

Most of us go through life without ever being taught why we feel, think and relate in the ways that we do. We tell ourselves that we are being too sensitive, too needy, too distant, too emotional or too independent. Or we blame ourselves when we fall into the same patterns over and over again.

This is where attachment theory can help. It offers a simple, compassionate way of understanding why certain situations feel hard, why some relationships feel safe and secure, and why others feel draining or confusing.

It is not about labels or blame. It is about understanding what shaped you, so you can begin to shape what comes next.

Why I created this guide

In my counselling work, attachment comes up almost every day. Some people describe feeling anxious in relationships, always expecting something to go wrong. Others feel distant or disconnected, unsure how to let people in. Some feel torn between closeness and independence. Many have no idea why these patterns exist. They just know they feel stuck.

I wanted to create something that gently explains these patterns in a way that feels accessible, clear and hopeful. Something you can read in your own time, without pressure. Something that helps you understand yourself with more clarity and compassion.

So I’ve put together a free guide called 'Understanding your attachment style and why it matters'.

What the guide includes

Inside, you will find:

• A simple overview of the four attachment styles

• Examples of how they can show up in adult relationships and friendships

• Reflection questions to help you recognise your own patterns

• Gentle ideas for what you can do next

My hope is that it gives you the opportunity to understand yourself better - in a kind and compassionate way.

Who is this guide for?

This guide is for you if:

• You feel anxious in relationships or worry about being rejected

• You struggle to ask for help and prefer to cope alone

• You find yourself clinging, withdrawing or shutting down when things feel uncertain

• You feel confused by the intensity of your emotions

• You want to understand why you react the way you do

• You are curious about attachment theory but want a gentle introduction

Download your free guide to understanding your attachment style

You can download it here:

Download the guide: Understanding your attachment style and why it matters

You don't need to sign up to anything or share any personal info. It's just a resource for you to read in your own time.

And if you find yourself wanting to go deeper, or explore how attachment might be shaping your relationships, you are always welcome to book a free introductory chat and we can talk it through together.