'You can’t pour from an empty cup'. It’s one of those phrases many of us know well. A reminder that we need to look after ourselves too. That we need to put on our own oxygen mask before we can care for everyone else around us. And that is absolutely true. But sometimes I think that phrases like this can miss a really important point. Most of us know what we need. How we might spend a day if we could really rest and recover and restore ourselves. The part that's often

We give and receive feedback all day long. There's the formal feedback that we might think of in the workplace or at school. But our day is filled with micro-moments of feedback. Comments, questions, the way that someone looks at us. The assumptions that we make about what someone is thinking - even if they haven't said anything at all. And something that I often notice, is that different 'parts' of us can become activated when we receive feedback. Let me explain. When

I’ve recently been asked to comment for The Mirror on sibling dynamics , particularly in families where one adult child stays closely connected while another steps back. What often surprises people is not the fact that families argue and fall out with each other. But the confusion that can follow. The fact that different siblings who grew up in the same family respond so differently to the same parents, the same events, and the same tensions. And why this difference can s

I am excited to share that I've created a free guide, all about attachment theory. This is an area of specialism for me - I'm an attachment-based specialist, and a course tutor on an attachment course for therapists. This free guide is designed to help you make sense of your patterns in relationships and friendships Most of us go through life without ever being taught why we feel, think and relate in the ways that we do. We tell ourselves that we are being too sensitive, to